Just the thought of death can be scary and sad. But what if you died? I believe that ignoring the inevitable is an invitation for disaster.
What if You Died Today?
A friend of mine recently passed away at the age of 38. Suddenly and without warning. Watching the pain on her family and friends’ face was very difficult. Events like this force me to reflect. Really, the same situation could have happened to me. I could be the one leaving four kids and wife behind. As I reflect on the past, through my formative years and up til now, I’ve had so many friends, colleagues, and acquaintances pass on. Quite incredible on the shortness and fragility of life…but yet so often taken for granted.
So, what if you did die today? I mean there will come a point in time where you will and not all of us will have “the luxury” to know when that day will happen. Will you be ready? More importantly would your loved ones be prepared for your departure?
The Wealthiest Place in the World
The great Les Brown is quoted as saying “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take the first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”
This quote has stuck with me from the first time I heard it. Here’s a sobering exercise for you, the next time you drive by a cemetery, take a quick glance at the number of headstones and think about all of the hopes, dreams, books, songs, inventions, and cures that were never fulfilled. But don’t think about this and get depressed. That’s not the point. Think about this and be THANKFUL that you still have an opportunity to fulfill your dreams, REALIZE tomorrow is promised to no one, and be GRATEFUL that you still have breath, living out your miracle of LIFE.
*SIDE NOTE – Get a Will
You need a voice after you pass on that specifies exactly what you want to happen with your resources and assets. Without having a will, you will be labeled as a “intestate.” As an intestate, your state of residency will determine how your possessions and assets (bank accounts, real estate, securities, etc.) will be divided and distributed. Sounds like a good idea? Er. No.
LegalZoom, Nolo, BuildAWill, RocketLawer, and LawDepot all provide online opportunities to complete this important step. It’s typically a simple process. However, the more you own, the more complexity you may need to cover all. Should you ever need guidance, seek legal consultation to ensure all your bases are covered.
If you want more details on preparing a will, check out this LifeHacker report.
With That Said…
A recent The ONE Thing Podcast asked it’s listeners, “if you could fast forward to the end of your life, would you say, “Man I wish I could’ve spent just five more hours in the office!”” Doubtful.
I won’t BS you, I really want to go all in to realize the actualization of the endeavors in my life. But at the same time, I know that my time with my family is one of my most valuable unrenewable resources of this world. When it’s all said and done, will my success be worth all of the missed sports practices and cold dinners?
I’m already feeling guilty for the things I have missed already. In fact a year in Afghanistan took a away precious family time. I recall when two of my boys were rejected on Valentine’s Day. Trust me, when that happened, the last place I wanted to be was overseas. I needed to be Dad. But as in anything, there’s always a sacrifice.
How do you balance your personal life with your professional life?
On Your Deathbed
So if you were to die today, what regrets will you have? What relationships will be left tarnished by a harsh word or just silly-unneeded drama? Will you be proud of the person you lived or will you be filled with regret because you were too scared of the obstacles that stood before you and your goals?
This Week’s Challenge…
This week’s challenge will require you to do some insight. Focus on where you are in both your personal and professional lives. Where are you? Are you happy? Are you spending the correct amount of time necessary to raise children to be respectful and contributing members of society? If not, what are you willing to give up to get there? After all, there’s always a sacrifice.
Also, bonus points, make amends with people that you have hurt, or have hurt you, in the past. Or if you can’t stomach to see them in person, forgive them in your heart. Holding all of that anger and pain inside you for years and years on end does not hurt the person you’re mad at. In fact it’s probably causing you to be stressed, sick, and tired. So let the pain go, forgive in your heart, and be free from that bondage.
I want to hear from you. Tell me how you did on your challenge.
Until Next Time….
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