Science is telling us that it takes a person roughly 66 days to form and imprint a new habit…good or bad. So what am I working on?
Before I get to that, I used to have a positive voice in my head. I used to be able to shut down the negativity and focus on what I wanted rather than focus on what I didn’t. I can’t say to any one specific point in life where the change occurred, but I can think of different events that shaped my mind in a negative way.
Bad habits form in the same manner. No one intentionally sets out to be lazy, out of shape, or broke. But day after day of repeating bad habits lead people to unwanted realities. And to make it worse in some (if not most) there’s always someone or something to blame, rather than taking full ownership of your life’s current predicament.
Almost unbeknownst to me, I allowed the negativity of this world infiltrate my mind. Little by little I allowed the person I wanted to be become the person they wanted me to be. I also created new habits that were not beneficial to me or to my family. I became a completely different person in a short amount of time.
We wear helmets and pads to protect our bodies. We eat healthy foods and exercise to protect ourselves from sickness. Why don’t we protect our psyches from negativity? As Oprah Winfrey said, “You become what you believe.” No truer words have ever been spoken, yet how many of us actually put that thought to use?
How many opportunities vanished by using the small record player in my head remind me that I am not good enough, not worthy enough, that my past failures will dictate my future?
No more. I cannot afford to continue to live like this. If I do, before I know it it’ll be too late to do anything and I’ll be on my deathbed wishing I had done something about it.
Richest Place In The World
Les Brown made famous, “The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”
Sound like you? It did for me. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely not a finished product, and thankfully so because if this is it, yikes. There is still a ton of work that needs to be completed in order for me to achieve my dreams. One day at a time.
As Muscle Prodigy speaks on, a wall is not built all at once and neither are your dreams and aspirations. Each day is a brick and must be placed as perfectly as a brick can be placed. Day after day, week after week, month after month, until the wall is complete.
It’s that determination, desire, hard work and faith in one’s self that will take you to the top. If you need any motivation on building a wall, and learning about others who’ve done the same, check this YouTube video by Muscle Prodigy.
My 66 Day Challenge (courtesy of TheONEThing) To Start or Kill A Habit
So what am I working on? I’m working on getting the inner voice, the inner record player speaking only words of encourage and immediately casting out any negativity. Each day I have a 5-minute rant on the way to work (and sometimes on the way from work) to speak out loud only words that encourage, build up, speak of a better future. Where I want to be, not where I am. Not where my past has led me, but to where my present is taking me.
For me this is just installing a new train of thought. I want the mind to work on a positive autopilot vibe on my behalf when I’m not deliberately focusing. This habit for me is beginning to look and feel like the Law of Attraction.
Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction suggests that what you think about you will become. If you think about what you want and take the correct actions that pushes you closer to that idea, that idea will one day manifest. Like the mindset, the Law of Attraction can work in both ways. As Will Smith said, “Those who think they can and those who think they can’t are both usually right.”
Your 66 Day Challenge
As a fair warning, 66 days is a long time to work on a difficult tasks. So you may have to set reminders for yourself to keep you on schedule. Utilize calendars, pdfs, and other tools to help you at TheONEThing website. I’ve posted a book review on TheONEThing which can be found here. I highly, highly recommend reading this book and discover the contents immediate impact on your life. At no extra cost to you, if you want to skip the review because you’re familiar with me continually pounding the TheONEThing drum, you can pick it up on Amazon for only $15 (affiliate link).
I guarantee that if you spend 66 days laying the foundation of a new habit you want, or destroying an old one, you won’t need reminders. It’ll be an automatic response…where you can then begin the 66-day journey once again on a new habit.
What habit do you want to make? What habit do you want to break? I share them below, I want to hear from you!
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